Let's ramble about love

When i'm contemplating about true love and whether or not it exists, I found myself being in a state where I'm lost and confuse. I decided to do a little research on the internet, talked about this topic with friends,family etc and the results where extremely confusing. You see, many people fantasize about finding <<the one >> or their other half and support the view of true love. Opponents think  that love is just a chemical reaction that only lasts for up to few minutes,days or months. So can true love exists for real or is it just a human neccessity for reproduction?
There's an old belief I once read that humans originally had 2 heads,4 arms and 4 legs. But certain actions they made were so bad that Gods had to seperate them in order to panish them. So our species were ''literally'' torn in half and had to waste their whole life in order to find their soulmate.
I know that this is just a myth , a story maybe even a fairytale to narrate to childern. But somone who has fallen in love has felt this feeling before towards another person.
When you fall in love with someone and have the opportunity to really experience this journey being on the same page together as one, you feel like you complement each other. But not all have the oppotunity to meet their soulmate in the right place at the right time.  How can one be sure that she/he found the one ?
Being in love is more that just kissing or cuddling. When you've found your soulmate you will know because you will feel empty if he/she is not in the room even for a few seconds or minutes. When you truly felt in love you will be litteraly hit by a strong power that will chain you forever . Even the smallest things and your daily routine will look and be different once you've experienced it with your soulmate. Eating,driking or even breathing would be hard. And those feelings will worsen even more after a fight,or after being seperated for a while because of the circumstasses.
Being in love doesn't mean having the urge to only jump into bed and then light up a ciggarete without even saying a word. Being in a true relatiosnhip means that you have dreams for the future whether than involves making a family,get married or just live together forever; and yes that is possible if one respects and really cares for the other. Being in love means being infatuated and acting crazy,doing sponteneous and stupid things for one another. When you're together the hours pass by extremely fast and when you're not together the ticking clock is your worst enemy. And even though your cooking techniques needs improvement and dinner tests like an order from a cheap fast food, your soulmate will complement you for your time and effort.
So yes my conlusion is that Love can happen only once in a lifetime because when two people are on the same page and feel the same things,no matter what, they will never be apart and nothing will stop them. It is indeed something so rare and so magical that will lift you off your feet. Make sure to enjoy your journey and never come down from your cloud 9.
For those of you who didn't have the opportunity to meet their soulmate yet, hold on tight. Magical things happen when you list expect it.

FoodForThought-Things we need to give up in order to be happy

There is a very intriguing facebook page called "Higher Perspective". I discovered it one day by accident when i saw an interesting video that one of my facebook friends had posted through this page. This video was my food for thought. So let's go ahead and elaborate on some tips that the creators of this page suggest that we should give up in order to be happy.

1 Dwelling on the past
We have all been told not to stay focused on the past. When I was feeling frustrated about something that had happened my loved ones always used this sentence. At the time I was not able to pay close attention and see that they were right. Dwelling on the past can only do you harm because we are talking about things,situations,events that had already happened and we can not change them even if we are talking about a breakup or even death.

2 Worrying about the future
Personally, I am one of those people who are constantly thinking about their future. Unfortunately,in this way,we are missing out on so many things that happen in our lives currently. Whether there is a God out there or not, worrying about things that you can not control in the future will only destroy your mental stability. Not forget to mention about the severe anxiety that you will be facing every single day. When life is hard and you are having a bad day try to relax and do things that calm your soul.

3 Negative Self talk
Nobody can deny the fact that negativity flows into our veins every single day. Some people might be more pessimist than others and I strongly believe that it has to do with their traits and their experience. The key is to accept the fact that there is not a single thing in this world that it is perfect including ourselves. We all have features that we do not like though that does not mean that they are not appealing to others. We are all beautiful and unique.

4 The need to impress others
It is in our nature to boast about certain things and try to impress others. Sometimes we even lie not only to others but most importantly, to ourselves. If a person is happy with her choices then she won't have to boast about anything or try to impress anyone because she would simply be focused on her work and her personal achievements.

5 The need to always be right
There is a strange feeling that hunts me everytime  I am not right. I have not figured out yet if I am one of those people who always want to be right no matter what but i came to the conclusion that it is okay to make mistakes. Like i mentioned before a person should not feel the need to impress anyone or be right  all the time. We learn from our mistakes and become stronger.

6 Restistance to change
I won't lie and i will admit that change frightens me a lot. When I finished highschool I was whining about entering at my university. After a few months I found myself overflown of  happiness, I was so thankful that I left school. About a month ago I graduated from college and now, I found myself scared to the thought that I am working because my life has simply changed yet again. But development is in our nature along with change and it is something that we should all accept. It is not in our hands to change it anyway, and personally, inaction is my worst enemy.


7 Blaming others
When an incident occurs or even worse, when we are not sattisfied with a choice that we took, we tend to blame everything on others . Taking responsibility for our actions will only improve us in a way that we will be more true not only to ourselves but also to others.

Overall, there are many ways that an individual can achieve happiness and there are many things that one should eliminate from her life in order to be happy. This post was inspired by a certain video and I am only referring to certain tips from the creators of this video.  

Letting go

Letting go can be very tricky,very hard to deal with.. and most of the time it's a fight you got to face on your own. If you are lucky and you have the right people by your side you will be able to overcome what is that tortures you,other times you might find yourself in a world of your own for many reasons,either you don't want to open up about your problem or you think that nobody can understand you.
At this point you may ask..how can i let go? Let go of what hurts me,of what i secretly don't want to forget?Well here comes the serious and complicated stage of what i like to call it <<state of one's happiness>> I constantly seem to talk about happiness and how to achieve it and that is because i have been through numerous of bad situations and i finally figure out that indeed happiness is a state of mind , is something that you choose,something that you have to work hard everyday,it won't come to you free handed. Back to our main subject for this post. How to let go of what hurts you. Well personally i would suggest the following
1) Find the problem-the cause,define what is it exactly that you can't let go. Is it a person?Is it a memory? If it is a memory the only think i can assure you for a fact (at least based on my experience) is that it will eventually go away after a long period of time,it will drift apart while you are out and about,while your life changes because it will change nothing stays the same forever.
2)Are you willing to try and move forward or do you plainly complain about your pain without taking any actions ? You are a mess i know but it is intrinsic to let go,let go only if you want to. Otherwise by pushing yourself you won't get anything out of it,only hurt nothing more.Don't feel sad about how you feel or how much you've cried over and over again about this. Remind yourself constantly that everything happens for a reason and it is better to have experiences like this one,those setbacks will construct your new and powerful self.
3) Congratulations now you are in the final step or as i call it, <<the acceptance stage>>. You have awareness of what is going on and what is it that you really want to let go . On this stage you gonna have to talk with yourself for several hours. Analyze every single thing and see the advantages and the drawbacks you gained from this experience because that is what everything is ,an experience to make you stronger and open up your mind about everything.
A memory has the power that you fid it with. Even if the only thing that you want to do right know is sitting down and crying for days or eat your feeling in a vast box of chocolates you can't change the unchangeable fact.Time never ceases,it will continue even if you don't want it because your everyday routine eventually will change and you will change to,the only difference is that when you really want to let go you will achieve happiness earlier . If you are still struggling you may have to fight for just a little bit longer,but in the end you will survive and you will be you again . A new fierce and potent you!

Chase dreams

 

It's been a long time since i wrote a post here . For the past couple of months i had to deal with a lot of stuff.. Both silly and serious complications.. So it got me thinking about life .Tbh i was in my philosophical mood again tonight ...
Everything i've been through changed me . It changed the way i see life and the way i think about basically everything . It got me thinking a lot about time .. How fast it goes by. I remember when i was younger what my grandma used to say to me:'' Life is too short. Life is really really short.Live in the present,forget yesterday and make small plans for tomorrow.'' I wasn't able to understand what she was talking about. I was around 7-8 years old and still in school . Back then time seemed passing by so slow but now i sense it... Life is indeed very short. So we have to let go of our negative thoughts,we have to give up feeling hopeless everyday and start thinking about making our dreams come true. Otherwise one day we will wake up and feel regret for the opportunities we threw away . To give up your dreams is the worst mistake a human can do. Chase your dreams even if at the end you didn't make it . It's better to chase after a dream then to live a 'safe', normal, boring life .