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Κυριακή 18 Σεπτεμβρίου 2016

FoodForThought : Growing Up

Have you ever thought about how your age affects everything in your life? Growing up was always a huge issue for me even when I was an adolescent or even younger. You see, many  anticipate to get older, live their life to the fullest and be free from responsibilities or their parents ''chains''. And very often, a few years after you've reached your goal and you made it through your adult life you realize  that life literally gives you hell. Why is that? Why were you so interested in growing up so fast?
The things that always came to mind when I was thinking about being an adult was responsibilities. I hated that word so much. Being an adult means you have to follow the norm, you have to have a job, pay taxes, have little or less time to see people you love and even when you do find the time to communicate and connect,you are out of energy. Sure this is the reasonable way of growing and I understood that clearly like I understand it now. However, that doesn't mean that I necessarily like it.  That is because when you have a certain responsibility to something or someone that automatically means that some other aspects of your life will be affective (like I mentioned before less energy, little time to see friends etc. ). Some say that if one wants to see someone or call someone no matter what their schedule is , then one will always find time and effort to do so. I completely disagree and here is why. Supposedly you are an over thinker like me , or a person who is frightened by time, death and in general adulthood. When you are in this state of mind the only thing that comes through your head is disaster. Disaster to this, disaster to that and the list goes on and you over think and over react about everything. You are definitely making a list of all the things that will go wrong while you grow up and the thing is that you are mostly right. Inevitably you are in a world of your own and unwilling to communicate with anyone.

When I come to this state where I am scared and lost to my own thoughts I try to be calm and accept the facts by following some simple steps.
First and foremost, I try to understand that everything that starts in life has an end including a human life. Once I accept the fact that eventually everyone will die at the end I try to hold on into my dreams and the things that I want to achieve in the future. Growing up means fulfilling your dreams, but it also means that your life reaches an end line,which is inevitable.

Secondly, I try to hold on to my good memories of vacation, funny accidents etc. When you've reached a point in your life when you would truly wish to just pause the moment forever,try to understand that even if it was possible eventually you would get bored. You are a human being, you want the change even if it frightens you a lot.

Last but not least, every age has its own perks and drawbacks. Sure it is amazing when you are an adolescent. You're only problems are homework, girlfriends/boyfriends and other not so important issues. Think of all the other possibilities you can achieve when you are an adult. You can become a pro at a musical instrument and eventually be a famous artist . You can be a teacher, a doctor , a writer , whatever you want. If you ''stuck'' at a certain point of your life or a certain age you won't have any progress at all.


Growing up means learning new things, accepting and overcoming obstacles and just moving on . Even though I would literally die to stay forever young , deep down I know that I would simply be at the same spot all the time because I wouldn't have the opportunities to move forward. And moving forward is a great start to reach your dreams, to reach success.  

Δευτέρα 27 Ιουνίου 2016

FoodForThought-Things we need to give up in order to be happy

There is a very intriguing facebook page called "Higher Perspective". I discovered it one day by accident when i saw an interesting video that one of my facebook friends had posted through this page. This video was my food for thought. So let's go ahead and elaborate on some tips that the creators of this page suggest that we should give up in order to be happy.

1 Dwelling on the past
We have all been told not to stay focused on the past. When I was feeling frustrated about something that had happened my loved ones always used this sentence. At the time I was not able to pay close attention and see that they were right. Dwelling on the past can only do you harm because we are talking about things,situations,events that had already happened and we can not change them even if we are talking about a breakup or even death.

2 Worrying about the future
Personally, I am one of those people who are constantly thinking about their future. Unfortunately,in this way,we are missing out on so many things that happen in our lives currently. Whether there is a God out there or not, worrying about things that you can not control in the future will only destroy your mental stability. Not forget to mention about the severe anxiety that you will be facing every single day. When life is hard and you are having a bad day try to relax and do things that calm your soul.

3 Negative Self talk
Nobody can deny the fact that negativity flows into our veins every single day. Some people might be more pessimist than others and I strongly believe that it has to do with their traits and their experience. The key is to accept the fact that there is not a single thing in this world that it is perfect including ourselves. We all have features that we do not like though that does not mean that they are not appealing to others. We are all beautiful and unique.

4 The need to impress others
It is in our nature to boast about certain things and try to impress others. Sometimes we even lie not only to others but most importantly, to ourselves. If a person is happy with her choices then she won't have to boast about anything or try to impress anyone because she would simply be focused on her work and her personal achievements.

5 The need to always be right
There is a strange feeling that hunts me everytime  I am not right. I have not figured out yet if I am one of those people who always want to be right no matter what but i came to the conclusion that it is okay to make mistakes. Like i mentioned before a person should not feel the need to impress anyone or be right  all the time. We learn from our mistakes and become stronger.

6 Restistance to change
I won't lie and i will admit that change frightens me a lot. When I finished highschool I was whining about entering at my university. After a few months I found myself overflown of  happiness, I was so thankful that I left school. About a month ago I graduated from college and now, I found myself scared to the thought that I am working because my life has simply changed yet again. But development is in our nature along with change and it is something that we should all accept. It is not in our hands to change it anyway, and personally, inaction is my worst enemy.


7 Blaming others
When an incident occurs or even worse, when we are not sattisfied with a choice that we took, we tend to blame everything on others . Taking responsibility for our actions will only improve us in a way that we will be more true not only to ourselves but also to others.

Overall, there are many ways that an individual can achieve happiness and there are many things that one should eliminate from her life in order to be happy. This post was inspired by a certain video and I am only referring to certain tips from the creators of this video.